Friend That Is Addicted

This is a somewhat unusual list for helping a friend that is addicted to drugs or alcohol. It’s what NOT to do when talking about addiction. Sometimes it’s what NOT to do that should take first priority. “Don’t talk to strangers.” “Don’t drive when the traffic light is red.” “Don’t text and drive.” You have a son, daughter, family member or friend you know or suspect is addicted to drugs or alcohol. Chances are there is considerable emotional charge connected with the Friend that is Addictedsubject.

Your relationship with the person plays a role in how you talk to him or her. Any situation between a parent and a son or daughter will likely contain the greatest amount of emotion – anger, sadness, fear – whether the addict is the parent or the child. If it’s your kid, you could have invested everything in this individual and – in your eyes – they are throwing it all away. If it’s a parent who is the addict or alcoholic, this is someone you once looked up to, and now possibly regard as a burden. These scenarios contain all manner of baggage – guilt, betrayal, secrecy, suspicion. The fact you are looking for an answer is an excellent start!

Helping A Friend That is Addicted to Drugs

Some key things NOT to do if you have a family member or friend that is addicted:

1. Don’t argue or antagonize!

Arguing could have no resolution, resist the urge for combat or competition. You have the other individual’s best interest in mind, so no matter your relationship, try to approach the person as a friend – and be honest about it. You want to get them talking, not building barriers. Realize if you antagonize, the response may not be from the actual person, but his or her “machinery” – their defense system. The addict has built up ways to deal with confrontation – often referred to as “denial” – all designed to cause others’ accusations to simply bounce back and have no effect on the addict whatsoever. Yes, there is such a thing as “tough love,” often a key component in a group intervention. Even if this is your approach, keep in mind what you are trying to do – you are trying to engage the person in a conversation, not a quarrel.

2. Don’t assume anything!

Do not assume you and the addict or alcoholic are “on the same page”. This is an individual who has quite likely developed a value-system quite different from yours. You want to address this, but you may not have any idea what this value-system is. The number one priority of an addict may be solely an utterly to get the next fix. No matter how the person appears socially, this could be the first thing he or she thinks of when waking up in the morning. It is hard to grasp for someone who has never been there. You could attempt to engage with this person and they aren’t even listening. Depending on your relationship, he or she could also have a cache of secrets from you.

You may want to tell the person something like:

“I know you may be doing things to get drug money, and you may have even stolen from me, but I want you to know that I don’t hold any of that against you. All I want is for you and me to talk about how we can get you out of this situation.”

A statement such as this may sufficiently get the person’s attention and ease them into communicating.

3. Don’t give up!

Your attempts may not work the first time. It may take a number of conversations. Some people have a tendency to learn things the hard way. This is not to say “wait for rock bottom,” but you may have to adjust your approach several times before you get any impingement. Even if the friend that is addicted goes through rehab or gets off drugs, they could relapse. Understand this is part of the problem of drug addiction and alcoholism. Don’t let yourself get so discouraged that you give up. Educate yourself in the area, and it will help you educate the other person.

Here is a short list of key factors relating to drug addiction and alcoholism:

  • A person started abusing drugs or alcohol for a reason.
  • An addict can be physically or psychologically addicted – or both!
  • These are chemical substances and one should gain knowledge of what they are and what they do to the body and mind.
  • Some treatment centers use medication (drugs). Some use no drugs whatsoever.
  • Knowledge and education can be a weapon – for all concerned – in overcoming addiction.

What Can Be Done About an Addicted Loved One

Tackling this volatile subject is not easy. It will take some persistence and dedication. A good thing to know is that you are not alone. There are people who make drug and alcohol rehabilitation their life’s work. Gaining some knowledge is your first step toward resolution. And one last thing, something can be done about it!

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